"Kids do well if they can" is one of my favourite quotes, which I frequently use when working with parents of children with ADHD. This quote comes from Ross Greene, who is a legendary child psychologist and author, who has written several excellent books about supporting children with challenges with self-regulation (i.e. doing what they need to do for various situations). His most recent book is called 'Lost & Found: Helping Behaviourally Challenging Students (And While You're At It, All the Others)'. Dr. Greene explains that when a child is not meeting expectations for daily activities, it is because the child does not have some of the skills needed for meeting those expectations. He refers to these under-developed skills as being "lagging skills", and his books describe strategies for gaining more understanding what the child's "lagging skills" are, and ways to work with the child to find solutions for their daily challenges. When children are experiencing challenging behaviours, it can be helpful to us adults to do some "detective work" to figure out what has been getting in the way of them being able to do what they need to do. His approach and strategies are very helpful for many children with ADHD, and related self-regulation challenges. Children, teens and adults with ADHD would prefer to do what they need to do, and when they are not, there is something getting in the way. The good news is that we can all work together to figure out what has been getting in the way, and find ways to make life easier for everyone.
The title of this blog was something I read in a recent ADDitude Magazine article. It stood out to me because I know that many parents of children with ADHD would love to find a magic button like this for their child. The reality of ADHD is that there is no such button, and people with ADHD can't just turn on their attention whenever it's needed. My overall intention for my work and for this blog, is to help to provide information about ADHD and ADHD strategies. It is my hope that this blog will provide parents of children with ADHD, with more ideas for solving various daily ADHD-related challenges. Like many of the great challenges in life, there is no magic button, but fortunately there is more and more information every day, helping us understand how to make daily life with ADHD easier and much more joyful.